Whether you prefer Grindr, Scruff, Tinder or Growlr, your profile is a window into who you are. Unfortunately, many guys reveal ugly parts of themselves and scare away quality men. Don’t know if you’re doing it? Here are the biggest profile turn-offs that make men swipe left:

1. NO-NO NANNETTE:“No fats, no femmes, no Asians.“ “No sups, woofs or smiles.“ Can you really not tolerate a size-challenged Asian sending you a smile? It shows that you are both narrow-minded and a control queen. Eliminate the word “no“ from your profile entirely. Don’t like someone? Don’t respond. Simple.

2. LECTURING:Strong opinions about open relationships? Bareback sex? Faceless profiles? Keep it to yourself, Judge Judy. Say what you like to do, not who you think others should be.

3. HEADLESS HORSEMEN:Is your profile pic just of your chest, crotch or cat? OK, we get it—your job and boyfriend can’t know you’re trolling along with the rest of the gay world. Your torso may get a few curiosity seekers, but if you want more dates, you have to show some face.

4. LIST MAKERS:It’s nice someone wants to share his 25 favorite things, but that’s an attention-loser. Any “list“ should be between 3-5 things max. Longer than that and one of two things happens: he loses attention and swipes left, or he focuses on how different you are from him and swipes left.

5. NOVEL WRITING:Writing excessively long profile statements doesn’t help generation A.D.D. Save your confessional for date four. Keep things brief, polite and good-humored. Did I say brief?

6. CODE BREAKING:Overuse of emojis, text graphics and slanguage is too much work. These things are like Pig Latin. Hearing a word or two is cute, but deciphering a whole sentence is annoying.

7. MIRROR, MIRROR:“Have a body like me! Be white like me! Be hung like me! Be just like me!“ We get it. You want to fuck yourself. But if you want to score someone better than you, shut the hell up. No quality guy wants to be told what he should be. Besides, like-minded men will be attracted to what you are presenting. Present something hot, and nature will take its course.

8. COMPULSIVE CLEANING:“I’m clean, and you should be, too.“ Since most people bathe, let’s guess you’re talking about HIV, or the lack thereof. Are you seriously saying people with HIV are dirty? You need to have your brain washed out with soap. If you wish to announce your status, just say “poz“ or “neg.“ After 25 years, most gay men have figured out what those mean. And don’t say what status someone else should be. Rather, if you don’t want to catch HIV, take PrEP and practice safer sex.

9. SHOULDA COULDA WOULDA:“You should be fit, you should be hung, you should be a top.“ Ick! You sound more like a school marm than a hot man. While you’re eliminating the word “no“ from your profile, toss “should“ out the window with it.

10. DO AS I SAY, NOT AS I DO:“You should have a face pic“ … but the demander is a Headless Horseman. “You should be fit“ … but the demander has flab. These demands are “shoulds“ with a twist. Leaving demands out of your profile is best, but if you’re going to make one, be sure you can provide the same you demand of others (except the whole top/bottom thing).

11. THE ASS CEILING:“No one over 40! Sorry old guys“ or “No one under 8 inches!“ Numerical limits are so limiting! Rather, list your own age and size (or whatever else). Then when someone contacts you, it’s fair to ask about his. If he doesn’t meet your requirements, politely decline or, better yet, block him and disappear! He’s better off without you.

12. BAD BACKGROUNDS:Profile pics with uncleaned rooms, toilets or girlfriends? Yikes! If you are going to take a selfie, be just as concerned with what’s behind you as your sultry expression. The eye does wander, you know.

Basically, if you don’t want to attract flies, don’t smear your profile with crap. So what’s the right way to make a profile that gets you maximum results? Be specific about yourself, and be general about what you want. That’s it. Make the bait clear and appealing, and then cast a wide net. The perfect man will find you.